It’s always difficult to decide that it’s time to end a relationship. However, unfortunately, sometimes there’s just no other option. Perhaps you are no longer in love with the individual and the feelings have faded. Or, maybe they have betrayed you in a way that you find to be unforgivable. You might also find that your personal circumstances are forcing you to move on. Regardless of the reasoning though, there are some questions that you need to consider before you move forward with this decision. Let’s explore some of the key possibilities to keep in mind.
Can It Be Salvaged?
Right now it might seem as though the relationship is over and there’s no turning back from that decision. But perhaps you need time to think and to let your mind clear. Maybe what happened and what went wrong can be fixed? Don’t forget there are options available for you if you need help with your relationship. For instance, you could consider couple’s therapy. It just depends on whether both of you are invested in making things work. If you are then there’s no reason not to consider this possibility. Be aware that this does cost time and money so you both need to be fully invested for this to be worth it.
Do You Have Kids?
If you have kids, then ending a relationship is always going to be more complex. You need to think about how it’s going to impact them. It’s important to ensure that kids don’t blame themselves for the relationship ending. You also need to work to keep things as amiable as possible which can be quite tricky, to say the least. But it’s worth doing if you have children. It will help ensure that they know that you both still love them and that you still care for one another too. It will also make things a lot less painful.
Are There Money Issues?
Money is probably the last thing on your mind when your relationship is ending. Unfortunately, though, it does need to be a consideration. You need to make sure that you are thinking about how this is going to impact your finances because it certainly could leave a mark here. Ultimately, if you are married then the end of a relationship is going to cut your income in half. You might even need to fill out a form E divorce and that’s something that you’re going to need to discuss with your lawyer. It’s important to know where you’re going to be financially before things come to an end.
Are You In Danger?
Or finally, it’s possible that you are ending the relationship because you no longer feel safe. It’s important that you do understand your legal options here and all the different steps that you can take. This includes things like a restraining order. You need to be fully aware of your choices before you end the relationship to protect yourself and potentially your children or anyone else in your life.
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This is such an informative post and something people should b considering before they end things. Thank you
Some very good points, it can often feel so overwhelming when a relationship seems to be ending. I like the first point which asks people to question whether things can be salvaged as quite often people give up and withdraw without trying to make an effort, if possible, to communicate issues leading to the breakdown.
This is really valuable advice. A relationship that is not working is a very difficult place to be and can be so toxic. Sometimes though it can be so hard to face the reality that you need to walk away and often people will stay reluctantly.
But actually relationships take work and stopping and considering these points could make you realise that you are willing to work at it x
This is an excellent post. I just came out of a 9 year relationship this summer and it’s really interesting to read your post retrospectively. Right now I am grappling with whether I want the same relationship to restart as we still love each other, it’s just that our day to day life had become quite toxic. Thank you for sharing this ❤️
This is great advice Kayleigh, you most definitely have to end the relationship if you feel unsafe or if you’re in any sort of danger, if you’ve been watching Eastenders lately, you could potentially see what happens if you don’t leave a volatile or abusive relationship x
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some really sound advice in this post! I hope that this is seen by everyone who needs to see it, read and understand it!
Rosie